Moreover, we keep talking about " discerning", " intentional", or " willed" patterns. "Moral Deliberations in Modern Cinema" by Sam Vaknin

Discerning all the advantage to be on Bruhl's side, since he could shoot us down from his cover, I cried a retreat; the issue of the matter leaving us masters of the entrance- tower, while they retained the inner and stronger tower, the narrow court between the two being neutral ground unsafe for either party. "Historical Romances: Under the Red Robe, Count Hannibal, A Gentleman of France" by Stanley J. Weyman

I appreciate the feeling that prompted it- but I don't know that any friend, however kind and discerning, can give the final advice in such matters. "The Fruit of the Tree" by Edith Wharton